Understanding Rape

Rape is a type of sexual assault that usually involves sexual intercourse, forced upon an  individual without their consent. It may be carried out through physical force, threat, 
coercion, or with someone who is a minors, drugged, incapacitated or unconscious
individuals. Many a times people suffer from post traumatic stress disorder after being
raped. Different types of rape include date rape, gang rape, marital rape, incestuous
rape, child sexual abuse, prison rape, acquaintance rape, war rape and statutory rape.
Here, the word consent becomes important because it becomes rape only when the other person does not want it or does not give consent for the sexual intercourse to happen.

What is consent?
To put it simply, consent is when you agree to do something or give someone permission to do something (that affects you personally). 
In other words, consent is nothing but saying “Yes, you’re allowed to do that” or “Yes, I want you to do that”.

What is Sexual Consent?
Sexual consent refers to the consent of a person in the context of sexual activity. One is said to consent to sexual activity when one agrees freely and fully to sexual activity.  
Consent can be explained through the acronym FRIES:
Full and free

Consent is NOT:
Dressing sexy
Accepting a ride
Accepting a drink
Smiling or laughing
Marriage or being in a relationship with someone

Consent is NOT:
Saying nothing
Saying something incoherent
Saying maybe / not sure
Acceptable if given under the influence of drugs or alcohol
Saying yes or giving into something because one is coerced, pressured or forced
Saying yes when one is afraid to say no

Obtaining Consent: 
The person initiating sexual activity should seek consent of the other.
Ask yourself if the other person is capable of giving consent. If they are drunk, or on drugs, asleep or unconscious, they cannot choose freely. So, they are not giving you consent.
People who live with certain mental health issues, learning disabilities or head injuries may not have the capacity to consent. Do not assume that their consent is full and free.
Confirm if you have consent by asking them. Never assume.
Even in case of marriage or a marital relationship between two individuals, it is imperative that consent be obtained and not assume that their consent is full and free solely on the basis of being married.  
NO means NO. 
You can say NO. 
You have a right to say NO. 
You have a right for that NO to be respected. 

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